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So, you are a kid with a chronic illness. I wonder how you feel about that? Sometimes kids feel angry, sad or upset that they have an illness that makes them do things so differently. Other kids tell us that they just get used to the illness, and realize that it does not change how they do most things. Here are a couple of ideas of things you can do to help yourself deal with your chronic illness.

1. Draw a picture of your illness

This might seem trite or childish, but art therapy is a very useful tool in helping people cope with significant changes in their lives.  How it works can be simple.  Close your eyes and try to picture what your illness would look like if it were a thing. Draw a picture of that using the colors that you see in your mind.

Send your pictures to

Kathy Davis, MSEd, PhD
KUMC
3901 Rainbow Blvd. MS4003
Kansas City, KS  66160

We might put yours the website! The artwork we have received has been simply outstanding! Don't forget to inclde your name and the name of your illness.

2. Make a list of all of the things that make you who you are

Write down everything that makes you unique. 

  • List school, sports, hobbies, friends;
  • the things you like to do;
  • the things you do well;
  • your eyes, hair, smile, thinkg people notice about you;
  • things about you that make you proud;
  • things that you would like to change;
  • everything and anything that you can think of.

Now, look at where you listed your illness. I bet it was not at the top of the list. That is because you are a whole lot more than your illness. It is only a little part of what makes you YOU!

3. Helping each other

Teens in class.You are probably learning a lot of new stuff about living with a chronic illness, how to take care of yourself, how to teach others about your illness and much, much more. Wouldn't it be great to share your thoughts with other kids and help them cope with their own illnesses?

a. Write a story

Write a story about your experience with a chronic illness. Include as many details as you can about being diagnosed, your treatment, how to survive life in the hospital, what friends and family do that helps, and any thing else you can think of that might help another kid going through a similar experience. Then, e-mail me your story and we might put it on the website! Don't forget to include your first name and age.

I can't wait to read your story!

[webmaster comment — I remember in my pediatric residency a young man who used a water gun on a senior attending physician. Not many people could have gotten away with that! Stories like that mischevious episode make great stress relievers - JG]

b. Make a List

When you go back to school with a chronic illness, everyone is happy to see you and eager to help you out. Some of that help is great, but some may be more than you want. Make a list of the things that kids, teachers, family members and others did for you that was particularly helpful. Then, make a list of the things that you wish they had NOT done.

E-mail me the lists, and we might put them on the website. You will be teaching lots of people how to help their friends who have a chronic illness. Don't worry, we won't put your name on it, so you won't be embarrassed.


For more information, please contact:

Kathy Davis, MSEd, PhD
kdavis2@kumc.edu
(913) 588-6305